TCMMY: Everybody Wants To Be King

Have you ever wondered what it truly means to exchange brass for gold in your daily decisions? Join us as we kick off this episode with a heartfelt thank you to our wonderful and diverse audience. We reflect on our transformative podcast journey, sharing how it has provided a unique platform to voice struggles and connect with kindred spirits. We dive deep into the concept of choosing quality and long-term value over temporary comforts, challenging you to evaluate your choices and their alignment with your purpose and goals. Explore the significance of striving for greatness and making meaningful decisions that shape your legacy.

In a thought-provoking segment, we ponder the powerful allure of control and validation, even among introverts. Reflecting on a popular meme from The Matrix, we discuss the implications of desiring to know the future to exert control over circumstances and people. Drawing striking parallels to biblical kings like Saul, David, and Solomon

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Chapters

• 0:49 Seeking Control and Sacrifice for Greatness
• 14:27 Desire for Control and Recognition
• 31:05 Stay Connected With Mr. You Podcast

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:50

Thank you, what's up everybody? Welcome back to the All Purpose Pod for an all-purpose life. Wherever you are and however you're listening today, call me Mr U the podcast. We thank you once again for making us a part of your morning, your day and your week. We are Weekly Mirror Check Before you change the world. Of course, you can find us on all of the social media platforms Facebook, linkedin, twitter, instagram, youtube, of course, at youtubecom, at theycallmemisteru and, of course, also on TikTok. We're hearing a lot from you guys on TikTok. It's very interesting.

Speaker 1: 1:27

But thank you for your support of our show. Please subscribe to the YouTube channel and if you're listening audio only, of course, iheartradio, pandora, apple Podcasts and Spotify or just some places you can find our audio podcast. Love for you to download and listen to our show when it's convenient for you. We got friends that are listening while they're jogging, while they're homeschooling their kids, while they're doing laundry, while they're in college classes. I'm not quite sure how that's happening, but we got people listening to our show everywhere, in all kinds of places, all across the United States and even the world. So we are pretty privileged, even if it's just a handful of folks around the world, we're excited about that. Thank goodness for this opportunity of media. Thank God for this opportunity called media. We can use it for something good instead of for the junk that we see so much of nowadays in our world.

Speaker 1: 2:27

But I want to chat with you guys real quick about something close to my heart. Uh, that's what I try to do every time we jump on here together. Uh, of course, first of all, if you haven't been familiar with our podcast, please check us out. Uh, all the information is in our show notes. You can kind of find out where to find us and where to download our show and everything. But go back to the season one and listen to the progression, listen to where we came from.

Speaker 1: 2:54

I spent so much of those first two seasons, sharing so much of my life. When I think about it, I go back and listen to it, I'm amazed. As a matter of fact, to be transparent, I'm brought to tears in a lot of that, listen to a lot of that, because I had so much brokenness going into that year that we first started the show. I had so many issues and we all got issues. I'm not exempt from that. But this podcast, what it did for me it gave me a voice that I didn't know I had. It gave me relevance that I didn't think I deserved. And what it did was it gave me a platform to talk to people who understood the kind of pain I was dealing with and we've connected, we've been support together and that's kind of just some of the incredible audience of the Common Means to you the podcast. So I thank you for listening.

Speaker 1: 3:51

Go back and hear some of my stories. I share a lot in those first two seasons, probably more than I should share. I know I made a lot of folks in my life even at that time old acquaintances and even current relationships Pretty uncomfortable. What I share but I've always said consistently it's my story, I got to share it. If either of you guys are in it as co-stars and extras, I understand, but I got to tell my story. So I try to be careful but I got to tell my story at the end of the day. But thank you again for your support and for all you guys that are supporting us financially. Of course you can see that in the show notes as well how to do that. Thank you, production costs and everything that comes with doing this. You know it helps. So we really appreciate all you're doing with that and you're helping us to even go outside of our central recording location and even go to other places and record too. So everything that you donate, support us with, helps out a lot. So, ok, enough of that.

Speaker 1: 4:57

On a recent episode called Exchange and Brass for Gold, I was kind of going and I want to keep on going, but I ran out of time on but I ran out of time, but I was kind of just talking to you guys about the prodigal son and as well as what it means to sacrifice brass for gold or vice versa, to sacrifice good for great or vice versa. There's a cost to be paid, no matter which one you choose. But the cost is greater when you choose good over great. The cost is greater when you choose brass over gold. We care about longevity and we care about what matters and we care about legacy and things of that nature, and a lot of times, even in the practical areas of our life, we choose something that is of a lesser quality, of a lesser value, over something that is greater value, more long-term, uh, integrity, so to speak, and we do that all the time. Uh, I've done it on many occasions. I got a podcast about it out there where I talked about when I've done that. So it's not something that you know I'm exempt from there either.

Speaker 1: 6:01

But you know, I was just saying in that that episode just to kind of recap it whether it's fast food, tv shows, music, anything that provides a comfort for you, evaluate it. Does it help you get closer to your destiny, closer to your purpose and goal, or does it keep you further away from it? You got to think about that before you say yes to anything. You got to think about that kind of stuff. But I want to talk to you about what it means to be relevant, what it means to be sought after, what it means to be king. You might read the title of this episode and think I don't want to be a king, but don't you want to be in control? You may not want to be a king or a queen. You may not want to be the CEO of a company. You may not even want to be the creative director. You may not even want to be a supervisor, but don't you want to be in control. See, that's the thing. That's the fact that it is universal.

Speaker 1: 7:17

Everybody wants to be in control of their own lives, no idea how to do anything, including walk, talk and read. Even they want to be in control. They decide what they're going to eat and what they're not going to eat, don't they? You bring a spoon to their mouth and they push it away. They don't want that. Even the baby wants to be in control. So you can't sit here and say you don't want to. Everybody to some degree. As we mature, we learn things about ourselves, we learn things about God, we learn things about this world that we're living in and our mentality shifts a little bit. But at the end of the day, we all want to be in control of our lives.

Speaker 1: 7:58

Sometimes we think we can do a better job, or it could be that we're afraid of relinquishing control to anyone. Kind of depends on the situation. But to be in control comes with a cost. To be in charge comes with a cost. If you've ever been a supervisor, a manager on director level or even a pastor of a church, any kind of leadership in any capacity in or out of the corporate world, it comes with a cost. I know that from experience. There's some podcasts that I've talked about it in great detail, so the historical context is there if you want to hear it. But all of us want to be in some kind of level of control of situations, certain situations, because to release it it produces a fear in us. To release control to someone else or anyone else. We think we can do it ourselves and it's safer that way, but most times it's not.

Speaker 1: 9:06

My wife and I laugh about it because we've been kind of not really renovating the house but just doing some odds and ends and making some changes. And I tell her very clearly. I said there's a lot of things that I can do and there's a lot of things that I don't know how to do and I'll just be spitballing if I try to do it. One of those things is painting. I don't advise you to ask me to come and help you paint, unless you don't mind the little trial and error, if you don't mind us working through some kinks, because I'm not good at it and I don't enjoy it. I don't want to be in charge of the paint department and the paint committee. Somebody else needs to do that, because I recognize that that's not an area where I thrive. It's not an area where I do my best work. Put it like that Now, recently I've scaled some mountains in that area and accomplished some awesome things. Just the wall behind me is evidence that I've done some awesome things in that area and I've done some good work.

Speaker 1: 10:18

But it's not something that I look for. It's not something that I look for, it's not something that I seek after. But there's a cost to being in charge. I bought the painting because a lot of times you have to really recognize where you are, what you're good at, what you need, what you don't need. It comes with self-evaluation. I wasn't trying to get out of the job. I did it, but I recognized that I wasn't good at it, so I had to give myself some room to grow and learn. But there's people out here maybe even among you that want to be in charge and the idea of relinquishing that to anybody else is a nightmare to them. I could have gave my wife the role and said you know what? You just go ahead and paint the whole thing. I'll just help you and I'll sit back and watch or help you do a different assignment. How many times have you been faced with a situation where you probably should not have been the one to do it, but you did it anyways because you couldn't allow yourself to let somebody else be in control. At the end of the day, I think everybody wants to be king. Nobody wants the endless meetings, the lack of privacy, the pressure, the conflict from other countries that comes with being a king. But they want the recognition, they want the adoration and they want the validation of being king.

Speaker 1: 11:42

I have a unique history in being from new york city. People talk about my accent and me moving my hands when I talk. I can't even fight that battle anymore. It just is what it is. You know, I'm saying it just is what it.

Speaker 1: 11:57

But I've met, I've had the privilege, I guess the luxury, of meeting and coming across a lot of famous people living in New York. I'm talking about on trains, even on buses, believe it or not and walking the streets of Madison Avenue and Times Square. And walk in the streets of Madison Avenue and Times Square. I've met a lot of famous people. If I said their names they'd be like oh wow, they're famous, they're on your TV set, probably right now. They've been in movies that you've seen recently. That's kind of what happens when you walk around in New York You're one of the anybody at any time. It's not hard.

Speaker 1: 12:47

But one thing I learned just from being around some of them and watching how they live, especially in the music entertainment field they see why they become recluses. You might think, oh, if it was me and I was in that place, if I was king, if I was the leader of this industry, if I was a popular artist or a popular singer or a popular dancer, oh, I would be soaking this all up. Give me the recognition and the fame, baby, bring it on. I take all up. Give me the recognition and the fame, baby, bring it on. I take all that. I can see why they become recluses in real life, because it's overwhelming to have to answer all the questions, the endless requests for pictures. You could be eating with your wife or your husband and people want to take pictures of you and take multiple pictures in different poses, even though you're sitting there eating your food's getting cold, restaurants don't reheat your food for you, there's no microwaves. Getting off a plane and came and walked through the terminal without getting almost assaulted and jumped on by people who want to have a photo op. It's not great to be king. It may feel like it, because that's how you idealize it in your mind, that's how you see it in your head, but it's not great to actually be keen.

Speaker 1: 14:27

Even the so-called introverts, of which I am one, even us we want some kind of validation for what we do. We want some kind of recognition for what we do. To a small degree even, we want to be in charge a little bit. I mean, look at how introverts act. We want to be in charge of our introversion. We don't want to go here, we don't want to be in this public setting, we don't want to go to any parties. We want to stay home with our blanket and a good book, cup of hot chocolate or whatever and watch our favorite show. See, the introvert is still wanting to be in charge. The introvert, even the introvert, still wants to be king. They want to control their own environment and not have outside things coming in and messing up their stuff, rearranging their furniture and changing the way things are. But honestly, who doesn't want to be in control of their own lives? I'm not advocating this is a good thing. I'm just asking you who doesn't want to be in control of their own lives? There's a meme that's out on social media. It's been changed and adjusted, but the premise is kind of still the same.

Speaker 1: 15:48

They show the hands of Lawrence Fishburne from the Matrix with his hand out. One hand has a blue pill, the other hand has a red pill. One option is to know the future. You take the blue pill. You know the future, you take the red pill. You have a million dollars right now, or eternal life or some other list of options.

Speaker 1: 16:14

And what I found in my small sample size, in my little bit of research, is that most people want to pick the future. They want to know what the future is before it happens. Now here's my question why do you want to know what the future is before it happens? Is that important to you? Why did you pick the blue pill? You did that because you want to be in control of the circumstances. You feel like if you know what's going to happen before it happens, you can control the situation, control your environment, maybe even control people. It's real talk time, it's story time, baby. You're going to be in control of people, control of circumstances. You'll be in control of everything that happens in your life.

Speaker 1: 17:03

Well, thankfully, thank God, that's not how things work. Could you imagine a nightmare? If everybody had the blue pill and everybody can see the future, we could even have a good conversation with each other, because you know what I'm going to say already and you won't let me say it. You say my words for me and I'll say your words for you. Conversation would be dead if we all had the blue pill and could see the future. We wouldn't learn anything, we wouldn't grow through conflict and adversity, we'd be a bunch of spoiled brats, ungrateful without humility, and so on and so on. We'd be a hot mess.

Speaker 1: 18:31

I thank God we don't know the future about every aspect of our life. Everybody want to be king. Have you ever heard of King Saul, king David and King Solomon? They were all kings. They were all kings, but even in their kingly appointment there was a cost to be paid. If you don't get anything else today I'm not going to try to end the episode with something cool to say I don't have the bandwidth for that today I just want to just tell you if you desire to be in charge, you better understand that there is a cost to be paid, and I'm not sure you have the funds in your account to pay it it comes with a cost.

Speaker 1: 19:24

Like I said about the stars in New York that I've seen so many times they go through so much hard stuff you wouldn't even imagine and you think that money can solve all of it. But there's a cost and most of them were totally unaware of what it was going to cost. Could you imagine having to go to the store and buy clothes or buy food and didn't know what the cost was until you got to the register? Could you imagine the stress of even deciding what to pick, what to buy? Would you buy what you like? Would you buy what you previously enjoyed or would you buy something because you wondered, by the look of the box I think this might be cheaper. It would take you five hours to go grocery shopping if you couldn't tell what the price was on the shelf where you're getting the product from. All you know that when you get to the register, that's when you can detail how much you have. Regular grocery bills of $200 can turn into a grocery bill of $500 or higher.

Speaker 1: 20:30

Knowing the future is not all it's cracked up to be. There's a cost to be king. There's a cost to be in charge. For those of you I speak to myself when I say this if you're in any kind of leadership, I don't care what the capacity is, if you're in any kind of leadership, exercise humility, because there is a cost to be paid. There is a cost to be paid and most times we don't even know what it's going to be. King Saul had no idea what the cost would be to be king.

Speaker 1: 21:03

If you read his story. He was chosen because the people didn't want God, they wanted a king. They can see a king. They could manipulate and he picked him Because he looked apart. He had a kingliness can see a king they could manipulate and they picked him because he looked the part. He had a kingliness about him Height, stature, etc. But his heart was all wrong and he lost his job before he even got through the orientation. He was reassigned and fired before he even got to the orientation. He didn't put in a good first year of the job because he couldn't follow instructions.

Speaker 1: 21:47

A king that couldn't be led. Before he became king he couldn't even follow instructions, went into business for himself and it cost him everything, including his life and including family as well. King David not thought of to be anything important in his own family the least in his family, if you ask his family. But God saw something great in him. He was a shepherd who defended a little sheep who couldn't defend themselves From bears and wolves, defending their little lives. They didn't know no better, and David took care of them with the heart of a shepherd, and God thought he made a great king, arguably the greatest king in historics In history. King Solomon, his son to be his successor, had more wisdom than anybody walking the earth and made some of the biggest mistakes somebody could make.

Speaker 1: 23:00

Everybody wants to be king, but there's a cost that comes with it. What do these men have in common? Besides, they're three men in a line of kings, israel's kings. What do they have in common? They probably weren't thinking about any kind of kingship or any kind of royal appointment before they were assigned a role or given the opportunity.

Speaker 1: 23:33

Right now, where you are, you're probably not even thinking about the fact that you could be in line for a promotion. And I'm not prophesying over you to tell you you're getting ready to get promoted. What I'm trying to tell you is it could happen. Are you in a place to be ready for it? Do you have an aversion to dealing with the pressures? Do you want recognition so badly that it will soil your appointment and hinder your ability to be in that level of promotion, to be that leadership or authority in the area or subject matter expert in that area. That leadership or authority in the area or subject matter expert in that area. You want to be adored so bad that it could cost you everything. Are you unwilling to do the grunt work that it may take to be in the position that you're going to be in? See, right now you could be in the fields being unknown, like David Serving, doing grunt work and nobody even noticing that you're there. You could be like Saul, just walking around with your friends shopping. Had no idea Today I would be a king. Had no idea. Just walking around shopping with your friends hanging out, you could be a king. Had no idea. Just walking around shopping with your friends hanging out, you'd be like Solomon.

Speaker 1: 25:01

There are people who have been thought leaders and they've been influences around you and they thought about you when they could have passed the baton on to other people who are in the sonship line, but you were chosen. What will you do then when God asks you what do you want? Will you tell him five cars and a mansion? Will you tell him 10 plots of land? Will you tell him to bring somebody back from the grave. But if God asks you what do you want, what would you tell him? What would you say? Would you say wisdom to judge your people and to treat them well? Would your response be about somebody else other than you? See, we have memes like what I said about earlier on social media with the blue pill, and we got memes about people having little wish lists. What would you do if you had this? A blank check? How much would you fill it out? For that's the dream of most people. Give me a blank check, I'm going to get it all. I've heard it. I lived around it. I know it's the mentality of the people in general. A blank check is an answer from God in most people's minds.

Speaker 1: 26:37

People who won the lottery and didn't have the capacity to handle it I doubt they can look back and say you know what? That was a blessing. They didn't have the capacity to handle the amount of money and the responsibility that they stepped into A blank check to be clear, in case you were that. They stepped into A blank check To be clear, in case you were misconstrued something or you didn't understand what I was saying. A blank check is not a good thing in this context A blank check is probably something that you couldn't handle. Do you understand what I'm saying to you today? A blank check is probably something you could not handle. So I give you a blank check and say fill it out with whatever amount you want. You probably wouldn't even know where to start, probably would change that figure five times because it's not enough, or you forgot this. You forgot that there's no plan, there's no organization. You don't know what you would do with that.

Speaker 1: 27:42

Everybody wants to be king. Everybody wants to be in charge of their own lives. But to what degree? To what cost? King Saul wanted to be validated. He wanted to be known. Later, in David's reign, he wanted power. He made some decisions on his own, without consulting God anymore. King Solomon had wisdom that caused people who were rulers in other countries to come and see him for themselves, because they couldn't believe that anybody could have this much wisdom to solve this many problems and have this many solutions. He turned to other gods who don't have that wisdom, who can't give him the wisdom that he had, and hold himself out to them and, for eternity, change his legacy. Everybody wants to be king, want to be on the movie screen and on the album cover and on the TV.

Speaker 1: 28:51

Until you realize what it costs, until you realize what the demands are for them doing that, do you really want a blank check? Do you really want that? Anybody to some degree wants to be appreciated, and there's nothing wrong with that. Everybody wants to make smart decisions and exercise some kind of personal control over their lives. I'm not even against that part. But there's a cost to be the boss. There's a cost to be in charge. So if you're not in charge of anything and you haven't made any steps in any kind of area of leadership whatsoever, before you get there, think about the cost. There's somebody probably next to you right now or in proximity, or somebody you know that you deal with on a regular, daily or weekly basis. They're in it and there's a cost to be paid and they're paying it.

Speaker 1: 29:49

Think about that. Think about that. Think about exchanging good for great. Think about what we talked about with the Kings Saul, david and Solomon. You can look back at them and say, oh, they messed up. What would you have done if you were in the exact same position? You think about that.

Speaker 1: 30:03

It's easy to judge if you were in the exact same position. You think about that. It's easy to judge when you're on the other side of it. It's easy to judge when you don't have the cameras flashing in your eyes. You can't even go to the store and get a jug of milk because people are all on you. It's easy to sit back and judge that. But the time is going to come where you're going to be in the spotlight. You're going to be called upon, you're going to be chosen for a specific task. It's going to feel very lonely because nobody can help you do that work. You got to do it by yourself, with God's help, if you trust him. Think about that as we move forward.

Speaker 1: 30:46

But thank you again for listening to us, thank you for having this chat with us and if you desire to be a king, listen to this show and assess the costs before you decide to go forth and conquer a kingdom.

Speaker 1: 31:06

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