How Do YOU Build Your Network?

Ever wondered why building a strong network seems effortless for some but daunting for others? Join us as we reflect on our own journey since 2020, sharing personal experiences and the challenges we've faced in navigating the complicated world of networking. 

We also dive deep into the ethical aspects of networking, especially within the realm of social media. Through the lens of real-life analogies like bricks and pop culture references such as "Mean Girls," we scrutinize how networks can sometimes become cliques that promote exclusivity rather than inclusivity. 

Authenticity and selflessness emerge as the cornerstone of effective network building. Drawing wisdom from the story of the Tower of Babel in Genesis 11, we explore how easily one can stray from their true purpose. Cautioning against the allure of counterfeits in the media and networking world, we underscore the importance of genuine, value-adding interactions. Tune in to discover how true lead

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Chapters

• 0:49 Building a Strong Network
• 9:08 Building a Strong Network Ethically
• 22:46 Navigating Relationships in Network Building
• 34:33 Building Networks Through Serving Others

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:50

Thank you, Welcome back to the All Purpose Pod for an all-purpose life. Wherever you are and however you're listening to the Call Me Mr you the podcast, we thank you once again for making us a part, making us an intentional part of your morning, your day and your week with your weekly mirror check before you change the world. We thank you so much for your continued support of all of our programming, all of our broadcasts from the they Call Me, Mr you brand of shows. We're definitely appreciative of your listening to us. If you're listening to audio listeners only, of course, you can find us on Pandora, iHeartRadio, Amazon Music, Spotify and, of course, Apple Podcasts, which is one of two places, along with Stitcher, where you can actually subscribe to our show. Please subscribe to our podcast on Apple Podcasts. It'll help us out greatly. It'll move us forward to where we believe God wants us to be. So we definitely would love to have your support there. And, of course, if you are a listener and a watcher, of course you can also find our YouTube channel at they Call Me Mr you. You can find our show there, full length episodes as well, audio and video, of course. Love you to subscribe there as well. That'll definitely help us out with moving forward from a monetization, promotional standpoint, so we definitely appreciate all the support there.

Speaker 1: 2:08

I want to jump into a few things here. I like to believe that our show helps people. We talk about a lot of things. Over the past four seasons or so, We've gone a lot of places. There's some areas that we dare not tread lot of places. There's some areas that we dare not tread, but we've gone many places since this show started in 2020. I'm kind of excited and nostalgic because we're about to hit our four year anniversary in the month of September, so I'm pretty excited about what that looks like. At the same time, I want to try to stay fresh, stay creative and continue to bring you guys some of the things that I think you find to be valuable content, things that I hear from you guys about that you would like us to discuss or you'd like me to discuss. So happy to do that. I hope that you're enjoying that Monday thing on Monday at 9am and, of course, the Thursday night triple threat. At this point, we're down to one of those now on a Tuesday night, which you can find on YouTube at the sports and money podcast, but you can also definitely subscribe. So I definitely encourage you to do that and our his and hers pockets will be back out. In the fall, my wife and I the queen herself will be back in conversation mode talking about topics that we believe matter to you. We'll be discussing those probably on a Friday evening or Friday afternoon, but you'll be seeing that in the fall this fall this year.

Speaker 1: 3:54

But I want to kind of get into a few things here. I'm hoping I'm going to be able to help you out and just to be honest and just full disclosure. And just to be honest and just full disclosure, despite what people think, because I think that people think that I think I really enjoy social media. I've got comments like I'm the king of TikTok. I don't have enough numbers to even be the king of a portion of TikTok, but I think my frequency in my promoting our shows and our content, our YouTube channel and the podcast, I think people think that I'm on this so much and I'm enjoying everything I'm seeing and I'm just fully engaged. Well, I struggle with the whole social media thing. I think part of me is still an introvert, believe it or not, and the idea of being all over the Internet doesn't send excitement shooting through my veins. I don't really feel that. I think a lot of it because of what I'm trying to build is a necessity. So you have to put in the work and add bricks if you want to have a house, and I just kind of feel like I need to be consistent in that area and develop that, and that's just. That's fine. I understand the assignment, but it's not something that I particularly enjoy for a lot of different reasons. But I definitely want to learn how to understand it to a greater level and it's just making me think about networking as a whole. I've shared episodes in the past, probably within the season two and three about, as a matter of fact, probably the first three seasons, if I'm accurate about it where I've discussed networking in great detail, broke down some examples, some analogies we use and some real-life examples of what it means to network. I think that this is important to you. Hopefully it won't be boring to you guys, but this is something I think we need to be taking into consideration because this is something that we actually do.

Speaker 1: 5:52

We've been networking ever since we were little kids. Nobody called it that. It wasn't called networking. It might've been a club or group or even a family, but we were networking since we were little kids. What I'm trying to figure out in today's times is how do we forget why that was important? When we were little kids, we understood that networking was important. It brought us together. It allows us to have people who have shared experiences, people that we'd like to be around, people that we can work with and build things and grow together with. As little kids, we figured that thing out without anybody teaching us. Did we learn it from Sesame Street, an electric company, and Wondorama and hit shows of that nature? Perhaps that might have played a part, but we learned it and we put played a part, but we learned it and we put it into action and we did it. Now I'm not going to say we're in problems in the neighborhood with us young people being young people, but we understood how to network. So it baffles me that we're adults now and we still haven't quite figured it out and we've done it when we were kids. How did we forget so quickly 30, 40, 50-year-olds that don't understand the importance of networking, don't understand the importance of sharing and giving and things of that nature?

Speaker 1: 7:21

So what I want to try to do this is probably a little bit more lighthearted than most of the episodes that we do. Hopefully it comes across that way. I can be a serious guy a lot of the time because I think about things seriously and things are important to me specific things so that may come across, but hopefully this is lighthearted. It's definitely intended to be. But my question, which is the topic of this specific broadcast today how do you build a network? You can go on Google and get examples of how to do that and we'll kind of help out a little bit with that during our time together. But how do you build a network? How do you specifically the listener that's hearing my voice right now how do you build a network? I'm curious about that because I want to understand what we do. How are we doing it? Why are we doing it the way that we're doing it Now?

Speaker 1: 8:13

Networking is an interesting case study because it requires a lot of things from us. It requires us to do things that aren't really about us. Now I know on your social media platforms you don't see that you got people from different backgrounds, different walks of life, different upbringings, different socioeconomical statuses. At the end of the day, we're all part of one network. We can try to deny that and say, oh, this is mine and that's yours over there, but we're really all part of one and, to the degree that we understand that is the degree that we can grow together excuse me and be the best us that we can be creating a better network, a better community, a better neighborhood and down the network, a better community, a better neighborhood and, down the line, a better world.

Speaker 1: 9:08

Hopefully, I really believe that. I hope it doesn't sound too idealistic, but that's really what I believe. I believe that the individual responsibility falls on us. But how do you build a network? I can give you some examples of this stuff on social media, but I'll just share this Now. I know that when this stuff on social media but I'll just share this Now I know that when you go on social media, you see probably what I see.

Speaker 1: 9:33

You see clicks, you see people that are coming together for their own purposes. They're trying to build their brand and they'll step on whoever they got to step on to continue to build that brand. They don't care who it is, they don't care how they got to get there. They're going to get to that pinnacle. They're going to be a leader or influencer in that regard and they're going to get a million likes and subscribers and they're going to get ads and advertisements and promotional stuff and they're going to be internet famous and it's their goal in life and they don't care how they get there. They will step on whomever and however they have to do that to get to that place. That's something that we see normally on social media, on our platform. I don't think that's a good thing. I'm not advocating it. I'm just telling you what we've been seeing. I know I've been seeing, I hear it from you guys on a daily basis, so I know it's not all in my head. It's not just me seeing it. You guys are seeing it as well.

Speaker 1: 10:33

When it comes to social media, we got to understand a few things and I'll be sharing tips throughout the course of this little brief episode. But social media in that regard, it's a two-way stream. But social media in that regard is a two-way stream and what that means is what we give is what we receive. It's about reciprocation and if you want to have the kind of world where you can get on your social media platform and not have to run into a whole bunch of toxic stuff, that's who you need to surround yourself with. That's who you should fill your timeline with. The kind of individuals that you're not ashamed to see stuff on their timeline like wow, how did I get connected with this person? It's a two-way stream. What you put out there is what you're going to get back. It's kind of a boomerang effect, if you will. What you put out there is what you're going to get back. How do you build a network? We don't think about ourselves as builders in any aspect a lot of the time, but we are builders. We build something every day. Every day, we get a brick and we have to decide how we're going to use it.

Speaker 1: 11:39

Some folks of a base mentality they're throwing their brick at people, using their brick to assault people every day, especially on social media. But some people who want to operate with integrity and with honor recognize that their brick needs to be used for building. That's what bricks are for. Now, some folks may take those bricks and build a fortress around themselves so that nobody can get to them and they're covered and protected and insulated from everything going on in the world. That's the second category. The third category are the person that recognize that they have a purpose in life and their purpose in life doesn't have everything to do with them, but everything to do with others. So they build something with that brick every day that can house the dreams and ideas of other people and create opportunities for them as well as for themselves. Three different categories One person of a basic mentality may throw their bricks and use their bricks to hurt. The next category may use their bricks to insulate themselves and hide from the realities of the world and cord themselves off from what's actually going on. And the third one will build something that will be a blessing to other people. Those are the categories that we see on the social a blessing to other people. Those are the categories that we see on the social and, honestly, that's where networking begins to start coming in and start to take shape.

Speaker 1: 13:14

I don't know if we realize that we have that responsibility, but we have that. We're builders and we build something every single day. The question you got to ask yourself is what you're building. Is it worthwhile? Is it made of gold, silver and precious stones? Or is it made of wood, stubble and hay, Something that can't take the fires and the trials of life, that will eventually burn down and you have to start all over again. What are you building every single day? How do you build a network?

Speaker 1: 13:43

A network? We don't think about ourselves trying to build a network, but if you've ever seen the movie Mean Girls, it's not my favorite movie because I don't like stuff like that. I don't like seeing people denigrate others to that level. So it's not on my top 10 movies list, just to be honest. But I reference it a lot because the concept that's in that movie is the same thing that we see on social media also very often, probably way. But the point is that those girls in that movie you call it a clique, but they were building a network.

Speaker 1: 15:02

Everybody that came into their group began to take on the mindset of the leader, begin to do the leader's bidding or do what they think the leader would approve of in order to gain favor with the leader. They were building a network. They were in networking. Now we can talk about whether that was a good thing or not, what kind of heart that came from Probably all valid questions, but the bottom line is that they were building a network in that moment, and we do that all the time, Even you, where you are right now. You were building a network in that moment, and we do that all the time. Even you, where you are right now, you're building a network.

Speaker 1: 15:40

My question is is that network that you're building and everybody that's in that network in said network, are they all capitulating to what you want? Are they all carving copies of you? Is your network so homogenized that anybody that's from the outside looks at it, all they see is you and they don't see anybody that's individually unique. All they see are clones of you as the leader of the network. Are you a clone of the network that you're in? Have you been immersed so much into the network that your thoughts and your ideas and your goals have been shelved and all you have left is whatever it is you think will please the leader of your network. So you do whatever it is that they want you to do at the expense of your own thoughts and goals, dreams and purposes, etc. Those may be negative examples, but those are all real things that are actually happening to people around us where we are right now. So it's not made up hyperbole. This is real stuff happening and unfortunately we do see it, mostly on social media. Not great, but it is what it is.

Speaker 1: 16:59

There's a scripture in the book of Genesis. I referenced it many times during our episodes, but I want to share this because I want you to understand something regarding networking. I want you to understand where we're going throughout the rest of this episode. But I'm going to read it for you all the way through. Just nine verses shouldn't take too long. But Genesis, chapter 11, verse one to nine. I'm going to read this out real quick. Hopefully you can follow all this going on. I'll take my time here. I know I talk fast sometimes.

Speaker 1: 17:26

But verse one says now the whole world had one language and a common speech. As people moved eastward, they found a plain in Shinar and settled it. Verse three they said to each other come, let's make bricks and bake them. Verse 3. Then he said. Verse 5 says but the lord came down to see the city and the tower that people were building. The lord said if, if, as one, people speak in the same language, they have begun to do this, then nothing they plan to do will be impossible for them. Come, let us go down and confuse their language, so they will not understand each other. Verse 8 so the Lord scattered them from there all over the earth and they stopped building the city, Verse 9,. That is why it was called Babel, because there the Lord confused the language of the whole world. From there the Lord scattered them over the face of the whole earth. Now there's context for why this went the way it went.

Speaker 1: 18:34

I'm not going to get down to a big biblical breakdown, but what I want you guys to understand from this there was a lot happening in this. To you this may sound like a noble gesture. These Babylonian people wanted to build a tower to reach the heavens, so they can make a name for themselves and not lose their legacy. They felt like that, because of the influx of God's chosen people moving into the territory and beginning to take over, they felt like if we don't make a name for ourselves, we might get swallowed up in this. They weren't thinking about cooperation, they weren't thinking about community. They were thinking about their own personal legacies and nothing else. To the point that they were going to try to do something that was so drastic, so majorly over the top, to build a tower that would reach to heaven. Could you imagine if a plane was flying over your house and you looked up? You're not many miles away. That plane is from where you're standing. So imagine a tower that would actually reach the heavens and because of the unity between them, this was possible in their mind. There's a little pro tip for you when you got unity, you can do anything. Little pro tip when you got unity, you can do anything. Little pro tip when you got unity, you can do anything.

Speaker 1: 19:59

But the motive for this was wrong. It wasn't about God trying to mess up their party and confounding their language, because he just felt like screwing them over. That's not what was happening. There was a lot of stuff behind the scenes, motivation-wise. That wasn't what it was supposed to be. He wasn't trying to hear them separating themselves from the rest of the people and trying to make their own. Whatever God's about cooperation and unity, and that's what he always, always in his heart when it comes to his people. But there was a shortcut to be taken here to access to heavens. Why do you want access to heavens? What's your goal and what are you trying to get in the heavens that you don't have on earth? This is just stuff to think about. We'll break it down on a different day. Why are you trying to access the heavens? What do you want there that you don't have where you are and then you're trying to gain access to a place that you're not authorized to gain. How many times have we done that? Try to create something that we shouldn't be trying to create? If we do things with selfish motives, it's always going to come out in the wash. That's what this was.

Speaker 1: 21:23

Whenever you have a problem or a challenge that you're running into and it's not working for you and I noticed firsthand in recent months why is this working out for me? Why am I struggling in this area so much? No matter how much I do, no matter how hard I try, there's always a root cause to why you run into that roadblock, why you run into that wall. Be bold enough, be courageous enough to ask yourself the question and be prepared for the answer. Be bold enough to dig enough and burrow down deep enough to get the answer to why you can't do what you've been trying to accomplish all this time. See, the person that I think is a fool is the person that is not working, but they continue to keep slamming their head against that same wall, trying to make it work. I've talked to people who are in social networks, in business networks, and I would ask them those questions why are you doing what you're doing? Why are you in this job all this time? When you told me your original goal was to do this, why haven't you started it? Why hasn't it happened yet? And they get resistant about it, they get kind of standoffish about it, they get kind of Off kilter and, I guess, a little bit edgy about it because they don't have an answer for why they've been beating their head against that wall so long.

Speaker 1: 22:46

It's become the norm. You don't realize that you haven't done what you're supposed to be doing and that's why you're in this place. That's why it doesn't work out for you at times. You're in the place where you should not be doing something you should not be doing. It's a power of network as well. Sometimes you could be in a network doing something that after some years five, ten years you're like why am I doing this? How did I get here? You didn't even realize you made a left turn and it's like here you are, Like how'd I get here? You didn't realize how far off track you already were because you were doing something you shouldn't have been doing.

Speaker 1: 23:24

But I see this kind of stuff on social media all the time. But I hope Genesis 11 and Tower of Babel account will help you out with some of the mindset there. But a lot of tips in social media. I want to try to get through these really quickly. But I see people who are doing stuff in the realm of networking. I see it especially in my social media, especially since I entered into the realm of doing podcasts and media and marketing and such.

Speaker 1: 23:48

Everybody has a network. Everybody's trying to start a network. Everybody's trying to be like ESPN or trying to be like the next Fox Sports or the next Colin Cowherd or Stephen A Smith or whatever. And it's like to start a network. Certain things had to be in place first before you can start a network. You can't just get five, 10 people together and say, hey, let's start a network. That's not how that works. When you were a little kid you didn't even do that. If you got five or 10 people and they weren't meshing you didn't like where they were coming from, that network wasn't happening. You had to start off from scratch and get new people. Before you can start planning and building anything, you got to make sure the personnel was right, that you were on the same page from a value system standpoint. Some things, some tips just to kind of think about.

Speaker 1: 24:43

When it comes to building a network, Like we said earlier, social media is a two-way stream. What you put out is what you get back. It's all about reciprocation. Don't be selfish. It's so common for everybody to look out for themselves as we've seen in that tower of Babel account in Genesis, chapter 11, and look where that got them. Avoid the shortcuts. That was a shortcut with the Tower of Babel. We do that all the time. We try to find a quick way to get to the status of being an influencer. Avoid the shortcuts. It always comes back on you. Be authentic.

Speaker 1: 25:18

So many folks are copying each other and trying to do what others are doing because it worked for them, but it's not you. Do you realize how unique and special you are? Do you realize that you were made like nobody else? Nobody has your fingerprint. Nobody has your same palm print. Do you realize that, how special you are? Nobody has your exact retinas and irises in your eye. Do you know how special you are? Nobody has your exact same facial features. You are uniquely and wonderfully made, so you can't do what everybody else has been doing. Even if you share that interest, you can't do it the way they have done it, it's not going to work. You're that different. In the world of networking, we've got to watch out for counterfeits.

Speaker 1: 26:02

There's so many folks that are saying you know what I can do that I want to do that. I've met people in this media game that have said all the right things. I won't call their names out because they're not even that relevant to do that. It's just being honest. They hit me up, slide in my DMs like they say that's exactly what they do. And they hit me up, tell me about how they believe in and they agree with me on this and they love what I'm doing with this and they want to do the same thing.

Speaker 1: 26:30

But when I go and look at what they've been doing, they haven't been doing anything like that, but they say that's what they want to do. I'm sorry, that's suspect right off the top. That's suspect Because if you're not doing that, why should I believe that you're going to be doing that? It's like going to a job interview and telling your potential new employer that this is what matters to you. You're concerned about this, this is how you live your life, this is what you want to accomplish. But when they go back and double check. You haven't been doing any of those things. It might lead them to believe that you want to just do it just for the sake of getting this job and not because you really believe and you have a conviction that this is what you actually want to do. It's not hard to make that leap.

Speaker 1: 27:17

So watch out for counterfeits. I've met them, talked to them. They have no intention. They just want somebody to ride on the way to wherever it is they really want to get to. They don't really care about my goal and my vision. They just want to just get to where I am or get to where they want to be and use me as a vehicle. Not that I'm so great and I have so much clout I don't. People will use whatever they can use to take five additional steps that they probably wouldn't take on their own. Just be honest. Look for and assess and add value to people's lives One of the reasons I tell people this all the time. I'm not sure they believe me or not, but it don't matter, it's the truth. I believe it when I started this show and it eventually began to evolve into the brands. There's a night triplereat, that Monday Thing and the His and Hers podcast, just for examples.

Speaker 1: 28:13

I did that because I want to provide a platform for people who want to get into media and do what we're doing Now. I'm not saying that from a standpoint that I'm a mentor and a coach and I got this down pat. No, I think it's even weird that I even want to do that when I don't even have my own foundation firmly laid. I don't even have everything I want to have yet I'm trying to invite people to help them get to the place where they can be able to work with me and move into these directions and accomplishing things in the media space. I think it's weird. I think it's weird that I want to open the doors for people to do that when I'm still feeling like I'm new in this, that I'm still trying to figure out how I even got here for the most part. But that's what my heart is. I want to open those doors and I'm looking for value. I'm trying to assess it the right way and make sure it's not about me and make sure that I'm helping people get what they need the same way as if it was me, and making sure I give what I would want for myself.

Speaker 1: 29:23

We got to make sure that we recognize that the personal and the private personas need to match. We can't be out here trying to be this in person, but public, but privately, we're not. That integrity matters even in the realm of networking, because eventually what is private is going to be found out and it can damage the entire network you're trying to build. And on top of that, one of the most important things I think this is probably as important as anything I just said, more important or as important as being authentic, assessing value and adding value to people's lives. But it's also actively building relationships. Man, I know I hang out there in relationship land. My entire adult life was about relationships, teaching about it, learning about it the hard way, and even on this podcast it's all about relationships. It's what I talk about more than anything, Almost anything. It's in the top two for sure.

Speaker 1: 30:23

Actively build relationships. Actively the key word here build relationships. Put in some work. Notice, in the middle of networking, the word work. Put in some work, Put in some efforts. Don't expect everybody to come to you because you're so great and you got it going on and you're influential. Actively build some relationships, Actually put in some work. Take the time to talk to people with your face turned to them, your body turned to them, not turned away. Look them in the eye, Listen to what they're saying. Don't try to anticipate what they're going to say. Listen to them, Speak to them, Understand, Attempt to understand, at least, and then respond accordingly. Actively build relationships, Be there for them, even if it doesn't serve you, it doesn't provide you any kind of benefit. I really feel that's important.

Speaker 1: 31:23

How do you build your network? Is the emphasis on duplicating just you? Is it homogenized to that degree? Are you the sole focus? Should you be the sole focus of the network, Even if it's your idea? Should you be the sole focus, or is it wiser to invest in the area that you're weakest in? I'm asking that for a friend. I started a group. I'm not sorry about it. I'm just that for a friend. I started a group. I'm not sorry about it. I'm just casting the net wide. I think I need to right now. But I started a group called the Connection.

Speaker 1: 31:53

It's a men's group here locally that we meet every quarter. It's not designed to be a men's Bible study or a men's fellowship or anything, but what we do there is we deal with issues that are germane to men. It's not a session for us to gripe and complain. We don't do that there. It's not something that we're saying hide it from your wife. We're not doing that either. But it is confidential. It is out of respect for the men who are sharing sensitive things and dealing with issues. We keep it all in-house. But we talk about issues regarding sex. We talk about issues regarding finances, issues regarding blended families. We talk about issues regarding serving in ministries, in the workplaces, in the military. We talk about things that men are affected by, I guess the image of man in the media today. We talk about and we deal with all that stuff personal development things, things to read and to help you as men.

Speaker 1: 32:52

We've recommended books like the Wilder, the Heart series Fathered by God. Those books have been instrumental for me personally. I've always shared those with our men in our group, but I've had a rough history when it comes to men's groups and things of that nature. So to do this with a big departure from that for me. But what did that tell you? It tells you that I didn't view this as being about me because it was up to me. I wouldn't have done that because of my issues, because all of my hangups.

Speaker 1: 33:34

I want to serve and help men get what I didn't get, and help us be better at who we need to be in our households, in our marriages, if we're married, or even in our singleness, Even if we're coming off of divorces. Our communities, our neighborhoods, our ministries, our organizations I want us to be the best men that we can be. God don't want us doing all the fixing let's get that straight but I want to help us as much as I can. From a personal development standpoint, my background as a coach and a mentor do come into play. Some ministry aspects do come into play, but this is about men supporting men and being the men that we're supposed to be, Not what the world says we're supposed to be, Not what the world says we're supposed to be. So those are the kind of things that come into play. But the point of that is that I'm actively building relationships and I'm actively not making it about me. The focus is on the men, the focus is on the cause, the focus is on the needs, not about me, or I wouldn't even do this. So I hope that makes sense. It's really, really important.

Speaker 1: 34:33

Like I said, I've seen networks. I've seen people try to build networks in the business realm, in the realm of podcasting and media, and the focus seems to always be about them. It's never about what it's supposed to be about. People try to build networks and they're so selfish and it's so ingrained in their own mind and so immersed in their own culture of themselves that they can't even see that they're not growing anything. You just got an amalgamation of people that are just there and involved, but you're not really growing anything. Nothing's changing and most of the reason why there isn't any change the biggest reason is because the person that the reason why there isn't any change, the biggest reason is because the person that's leading the network isn't changing, so they're not changing. Nothing else is going to change.

Speaker 1: 35:14

I love this quote from Zig Ziglar. It's one of my favorite quotes in the entire world. God rest his soul. I love his books and his motivational speaking talks Fantastic. But one of the things she said that I love it says if you want to achieve your goals, help others achieve theirs. Get that in your spirit. If you want to achieve your goals, help others achieve theirs. That's a total antithesis of what's going on in the world around us. It's the total opposite of what's going on in the world around us. Right now. We're doing the opposite of that in the world. But this is kingdom mind. These are kingdom principles right here. If you want to achieve your goal, help others achieve theirs. What I'm doing with the connection is exactly the foundation of that.

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Effort is from quotes just like this Because I don't have what I need right now, I don't feel like I have all I need, all I desire to have, but by serving these men who got some issues, who got some problems, who got some challenges in life that are not perfect at all, and they own that and they want to have the kind of community that we're trying to build. This is why I do it, because I want to help them achieve those goals. But I recognize that for me, eventually I'll be able to achieve mine by helping them and serving them. So, off the soapbox, that's just kind of why I do that. Some passages just kind of close, to show out just for some encouragement, so you kind of understand the heart of what I think networking should be looking like and what we need in it.

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First, John four and 12,. No one has ever seen God, but if we love one another. God lives in us and his love is made complete in us. The description that lies with that is like if we know. If we know we're known by the love that we show to other people. That's how we're known, who we roll with. If you say you roll with Jesus Christ as Lord, you can talk about it all day, wear t-shirts and have fish on your license plate. It ain't going to matter if you don't show love to people.

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Philippians 2 and 4, instead of each person watching out for their own good, watch out for what is better for others. Almost the same thing that Z Ziglar quote right there. And lastly, first, Peter, four and 10, each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others. You heard that Use the gift that you have, even though you may have thought that gift was for you to benefit. You Use that gift you receive to serve others. I'm telling you just like I know it and I didn't intend to share this story. I'm going to share with you real quick. Let me read the passage first. First, peter 4 and 10 each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering god's grace in its various forms. Okay, so I like to picture the person with the microphone in their hands. It's really important to the story.

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Okay, so most of you that have been walking with us for almost four years now you heard a story many times about my musical journey. You know that I was a signed artist on a independent record label back in New Jersey. I was surrounded by and in collaboration with, some very famous artists at the time. Let me get a swig of water here, because brush don't dry. Okay, so I was in the industry, pretty like that. We weren't rolling yet with a lot of traction, but we did have a 14-song album that was completed, Getting ready to work on a video for the first time. We had some things rolling.

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A good part of me at the time, because of what I was dealing with in my life personally and in my family dynamic. I looked at this opportunity with the mic in my hand just like that one dynamic. I looked at this opportunity with the mic in my hand, just like that one as my ticket to feel better about myself, to get some traction in life, to get some things I didn't have and kind of make up for the areas that I felt like I was deprived in. I saw that music as a ticket to that. You know, the guys was in the group where they had their own motivations for it as well, Probably just as selfish as mine.

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But now fast forward. Probably 34 years later, about approximately over three decades later, I still hold the mic in my hand. But what I'm trying to do is the last part of that passage in 1 Peter 4 and 10, I'm trying to faithfully administer by serving others. So now, when I hold the mic, I don't care about applause. Now, when I'm holding the mic, I don't care about when I get a contract or a record deal out of it or somebody wants to slate me to do a single or a video, I don't care. That's not why I do that. When I hold that mic now, it's for a whole different reason, a whole different purpose now. Now I'm doing it because I want to administer out of the gift to serve other people. I believe that the music that comes out of me is valuable to somebody that's listening, and that's the difference.

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But I hope all this makes sense. I hope you have a better idea of the answer to the original question. How do you build a network? Honestly, you need to know, because you're building something you can deny it all you want, but you're building something and I hope and I pray it is something of value and something of worth. Because you're building something, Are you building it the right way? Hopefully you're not the person that is taking the bricks and using them to harm other people and hopefully you're not the person taking the bricks to surround yourself and make a fortress to insulate yourself from what you need to experience in this life. Hopefully you're the third person that's taking those bricks and building something incredible.

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