TCMMY Inspiration Station: The Anti-Adoption Mentality

This episode explores the concept of the anti-adoption mindset, emphasizing how our early experiences of jealousy and possessiveness can shape our current attitudes toward inclusion in faith communities. It calls upon listeners to reflect on the importance of grace and acceptance, as articulated by the teachings of the Apostle Paul, and to dismantle barriers that keep others from joining our communities.

• Discussing the anti-adoption mindset and its implications  
• Drawing parallels between childhood territoriality and adult behavior  
• Exploring Apostle Paul’s teachings on grace and inclusion  
• Emphasizing the importance of welcoming diversity  
• Highlighting the dangers of misrepresenting the gospel  
• Encouraging personal reflection on community dynamics  
• Urging listeners to act as ambassadors of grace and acceptance  
• Reminding us to put aside childish ways in adulthood

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Chapters

• 0:07 Anti-Adoption Mindset and Christian Inclusion
• 8:09 Inclusive Spirit of Adoption

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:07

Thank you for watching. Welcome back to the All Purpose Pod for an all-purpose life. Wherever you are and, however, you're listening to the Inspiration Station. Thank you for making us part of your week. We're so glad to be back with you. We're enjoying the holiday season, like most of you guys are, and we are in the thick of it still, but we're excited and we're glad to be back on the air with you.

Speaker 1: 0:56

I want to just chat with you real quick. I guess the topic of this might confuse some folks the anti-adoption mindset. I want to get into something real quick, drop a few quick thoughts on you and then to get back to your holiday celebrations. But do you remember when we were kids and our parents gave other kids attention and how it made us feel we got territorial, offended. Even Kids can be really defensive about their stuff, possessive, even real territorial Kids that grow up in the house versus kids that are added to the equation later. Adoption is not specifically the topic of this episode today, but I want to kind of just help you understand how we treat each other Now. It's one thing that I know that when we were younger we were always taught to share. It was the mantra of every neighborhood I've ever been in or ever seen, and my friends had the same lessons taught to them in their household Share, share with your friends, share with other children, share, share. We're taught to share, but in these times we strive to assert ourselves our house, our group, our people, our circle, our pews, our seats, our roles, our community, our stuff.

Speaker 1: 2:14

One of the greatest messages the Apostle Paul ever taught was the message of adoption. We hear about someone who is being included or brought into a situation because of the lack of that in their own lives, and they're being included. If you're a believer today in Jesus Christ, then you understand that you didn't earn anything that you have. It's been given to you. It's been granted to you by grace. It's been given to you. It's been granted to you by grace. If you are someone who ascribes to being a saved person, it was given to you. You didn't earn it because you were a good boy or a good girl, or you went to church and you were always there on time. Every time the doors opened, you were there. That does not give you salvation.

Speaker 1: 2:59

Paul taught about the apostle. Paul taught about how salvation was given to those that believe, and then we were included or so on quote unquote grafted into the family of god. We weren't included because we were so good, so nice looking or so holy or pious. We were included because god loved us and wants us to be invited into his family In the common practical sense we as children of God. And what's been distressing to me I've even seen it leading up to this holiday what's been distressing to me is watching how we treat other people, how we keep people out that God wants to come in Because of how they look, because of how to come in, because of how they look, because of how they sound, because of how they smell, because of how they act. God wants to include them and bring them into his family. We know that change and reformation and character growth all the things take place in the midst of the process, but we have been keeping people out of the process because we don't think that they're fit to be a part of this family, a family that we were invited into.

Speaker 1: 4:13

Again, we didn't earn this. We didn't per se spend all of our lives here. We were adopted into this family ourselves. We had a father that didn't love us, that aimed to destroy us, and now we have a father that loves us and that cares for us so much that he gave his best that we might be free and be able to live the kind of high quality life that many of us are enjoying in Christ Jesus. So you understand that we were not original members of the family. We were brought into the family. So it's distressing to me to see how we refuse to share, how we treat other children being brought into the family, how we see our parents giving them attention, and it makes us feel funny. Inside we get even jealous or envious, territorial, possessive, because other children are getting our parents' time. Children are getting our parents' time and it's not just all for us 100% anymore. It's a really scary proposition to see how someone who learned and went through the things of the child are now adults and still going through the same mindset, still acting as children. First, corinthians 13 and 11 speaks to us. It says when I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child, but when I became a man I put away childish things.

Speaker 1: 5:40

Here's the uncomfortable truth man, if you are a believer or a Christian and you guard the gates of heaven, which you're supposed to, as if you decide who can get in and who cannot. You've missed the message of the scriptures. You are open doors to heaven for a lot of people who may never see Jesus in their life. It's outside of your example. But you don't have the right to make the decision on who gets in and who cannot. You're only in yourself by grace. You've missed a message of the scripture. That's your mindset. If you feel that you have the right to decide what kind of person is fit to cross the threshold of your ministry, the local church and people do that every day, sadly you've missed the message of the gospel If you think your local church is your home solely because you grew up there and you're really good friends with the pastor and you guys do cool things together and anybody outside of your sphere of influence is a trespasser or an outsider and they should be shunned almost like mean girls. But in real life You've completely misrepresented the word of God.

Speaker 1: 6:44

You might have an anti-adoption mindset, which is hypocrisy, because you are actually living in the benefits of that adoption In all your goodness. The Bible teaches us that even in all your goodness, it's still filthy in comparison to God's righteousness. You're only included because of the grace through adoption, and Apostle Paul teaches that throughout the New Testament. You were included because of him, not because of you. We're to receive the adoption as sons in this new family. Galatians 4, 3 and 5, or 3 through 5, excuse me will help you out with getting a mindset there. Ephesians 2, 17 and 19 also will help there.

Speaker 1: 7:26

The bottom line today. I want you to catch this. I don't want you to walk away being confused about anything. We were kids. We had a certain mindset. We didn't like sharing our stuff. Sometimes we had a challenge with sharing our toys with other children. We had a challenge with people being in our house, sitting on our chair in our stuff, getting our parents' attention.

Speaker 1: 7:46

But as adults especially those that believe we're at a place now where we're going to see people who don't look like us, don't sound like us, don't even think or talk like us come into our house, so to speak we have to be ready to receive them the same way we want to be received when we first came into the house.

Speaker 1: 8:09

I really hope that makes sense to you, because we are all under the spirit of adoption and we all have that opportunity because it's been given to us, not because this is our house, our group, our people, our circle, our pews, our seats, our community. It's because it's been given to us by grace, so we are grateful about what we have, but also understanding that other people want to have the same benefits that we enjoy. You yourself were adopted into this family, so obviously you should be the last person to keep somebody from entering Wherever you are. And have you listening to Inspiration Station and the anti-adoption mindset? Thank you again for making us a part of your week. Please continue to listen. We appreciate you so much. Enjoy the rest of your holiday weekend.