You're Already Networking Every Day—Here's How to Do It Better

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Networking is more than a business activity—it's something we all do every day, whether we realize it or not, and understanding our role is essential to our success and the success of others.

• The true definition of networking: the action of interacting with others to exchange information and develop professional or social contacts
• Are you a door (means of access and opportunity) or a wall (where good ideas stop)?
• Active listening is essential for successful networking—many fail because they don't truly hear others
• Three types of networkers: those who make you stop, slow down, or go—which one are you?
• Your network reflects who you are—you tend to connect with people similar to yourself
• The common denominator in all your networking interactions is you—take responsibility for the connections you create

Text Mista Yu with your questions and feedback. Time for a mirror check before you go change the world.

Chapters

• 0:00 Introduction: Redefining Networking
• 5:03 Are You a Door or a Wall?
• 11:33 The Art of Active Listening
• 16:11 Understanding People Like Fish
• 24:41 The Power of Self-Reflection
• 33:44 Stop Signs, Slow Downs, and Green Lights
• 41:20 Final Thoughts: Choose Your Role

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:01

Thanks again for listening to one-on-one with Mr U and your Inspiration Station. I'm really excited about today's episode and a chance to share another compelling story with all of you that I really hope changes your tomorrow. Let's not waste another minute, let's get into it. On this podcast, we're talking networking and the part you play in your own success. Now some might be tempted to tune out because you don't have a business right now or you don't see yourself as a professional. Don't you do it? Before this podcast episode ends, you'll approach every engagement, every interaction and networking opportunity from a place of power and confidence, and you'll hopefully see what I now see. We do this every single day and probably didn't even know it. We're going to break down the idea of networking all the way to its lowest common denominator. Yeah, that's you. That and more on this episode of they Call Me Mr you, which starts right now.

Speaker 1: 1:04

What's up everybody? Welcome back to the All Purpose Pod for an all-purpose life. You know what we do. We get a weekly mirror check before you go change the world, baby, and I'm your coach, mr Yu Ha. Oh yeah, oh yeah. Welcome back to the all-purpose pod for an all-purpose life with your weekly mirror check before you go, change the world. Wherever you are today and however you're listening to our podcast. Thank you for making a Call Me, mr you, part of your morning, your day and your week. Let's get it.

Speaker 1: 1:57

I'm so excited about this topic you know I had it all wrong, like so many probably do and it goes so much further than just an entry in a dictionary Networking, the power of networking, what part we play. We're going to jump into it all. You know I, like many, originally thought it was something that was done by those who had a business, or I thought it was. You know, just the work of professionals People hobnobbing and trying to get an edge and trying to get a new client. And networking is so much more powerful than that. It goes a lot deeper. I know we talk about social media a lot because it's where I see some of the craziest things and some of the weirdest trends, but also the consistent behavior of us as humans. I see it played out. That's why I talk about social media so much, but it's a place where we're supposed to be able to go and network. We'll get into what networking actually means as we get into the episode.

Speaker 1: 3:11

But I got a question for you. I want you to think about right now and even going into the end of the episode and even beyond Are you a door? Something for you to think about this morning that I think has relevance. No matter where you are in your life, it doesn't matter what you do for a living, it doesn't matter what your career goals and aspirations are, it doesn't matter. This question is still relevant. If you're a human being that lives and moves and breathes, this question is for you. This question, hopefully, will matter to you by the end of this episode. Are you a door?

Speaker 1: 3:49

A door is described or defined specifically as a means of access or participation. A door is also defined as an opportunity for success. You heard the definition. The question still stands Are you a door? Are you a means of access or participation? Are you an opportunity for success for yourself or for someone else? Are you a door or are you a wall? Are you where all good ideas and opportunities stop and come to a grinding halt when good news or opportunities are shared and it's something that's awesome, that can benefit other people. When it gets to you, does it go any further than you? Is it because of how you feel about yourself or others that it can't go any further, that good news comes to a grinding halt. We network every single day, whether we're professionals, regardless of our vocation, and we don't even know it. I want to talk about that because more important than entrepreneurship, more important than business, is the everyday opportunities we have to network, and where we see ourselves, how we view ourselves, has an impact on the success of that or not, and this isn't all inclusive.

Speaker 1: 5:18

There are a few common reasons for epic fails when it comes to networking. One thing I've learned is that the networker is not an active listener. We discussed that here and there on some episodes previously, but the networker is not an active listener. Now, whoever's pitching an idea, they want to make that sale. Get that point across. Close that deal. And yes, the object of this effort is a living, breathing person, but it doesn't mean that they're a candidate for this. They may have different needs, different goals in life. Close that deal. And yes, the object of this effort is a living, breathing person, but it doesn't mean that they're a candidate for this. They may have different needs, different goals in life. They may see their future in a different way than you might think they should be seeing it, one of the epic fails in networking is that the networker is not an active listener. They don't hear what the person is saying to them, or even the nonverbal cues, what they're not saying. They're not paying that much attention because all they have on their mind is to make that point to close that deal. Don't forget, we're not really talking about business. We're talking about human beings, human behavior and the idea of networking that we do every single day. Don't forget that.

Speaker 1: 6:26

Number two the networker may struggle with their own belief. Now, just because you have mouths to feed, it doesn't mean that you believe in the product or the service that you want to share or get someone to support you in or purchase from you. It doesn't mean that you're convinced that you believe yourself capable of even selling this. I've met some folks like that within the past few months. They got mouths to feed and they got a big family and they got heavy obligations on their shoulders. Guess what they don't have? Belief, they may just be desperate. Belief, they may just be desperate. But if the person who is the so-called networker in this scenario doesn't have belief even in themselves, much less their product or service that they're trying to render, what kind of success can they really have at the end of the day?

Speaker 1: 7:22

And number three the network is aware the network network, excuse me is aware that they're talking to a human being, but they don't understand human nature. It's kind of like what we talked about last week regarding fishing. You can be a person who needs to have fish in their life. They need to have fish on their table. They need to have it. But if they don't understand the behavior of the fish, if they don't get how the fish operate, how they respond, what scares them, what entices them, it doesn't matter how long they stay on that boat with that bait in the water. They may not catch what they came here to find. The networker has to be aware that they're talking to a human being and still understand human nature. I think we're going to come back to that one later on, but just some thoughts to think about.

Speaker 1: 8:24

But what is networking? Networking literally means the action or process of interacting with others to exchange information and services and to develop professional or social contacts. I'm going to read it again because I want you to hear something there, something there. Networking literally means the action or process of interacting with others to exchange information and services and to develop professional or social contacts. Now, I don't know what you heard, but what I heard was something that goes beyond business. It's talking about the very essence of who we are as humans the ability to interact, to exchange information, to share things with other people Before we even get to the professional part. It's talking about being social and it's the reason why mediums like Facebook and Twitter and Instagram, why they work the way they do, why they have the level of success that they've had it wasn't because everybody bought their best good and their best service to sell it in these areas. That's not why. It's the social aspect, the ability to interact with each other, to exchange information, to share stories, to encourage, to inspire that's what makes those mediums good. Most of us really don't like what they've become, but that's the reason why networking is good and why it's effective when used properly.

Speaker 1: 10:00

So how much of that are you able to do successfully without the other party's support or participation? The answer is none. You can't interact with others, exchange information, be social, develop contacts, relationships and friendships without the other party's support. Stay with us, we'll be right back. Hey guys, it's Mr U. You know how much Mr U loves his coffee.

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Speaker 1: 11:36

But one of my good friends took me fishing a couple of years ago and it was served only as my second time fishing in my entire life, the first time I really wasn't involved. I was a little bit too young to really appreciate what I was being taught, so I don't really count that as my first time, but admittedly, I was much more invested than the first time the second time I went out, but it didn't make the task any less daunting for me. We went out to the beach for hours right before sunrise, and I asked a lot of questions that day. I was really curious. A lot of questions. I was talking a lot. Every single thing my friend did, from arranging the bait to casting his line, was met with about at least two or three questions for me. I was soaking in everything I could. I might even have types of notes into my cell phone, because I didn't have pen and paper once the sun came up.

Speaker 1: 12:29

Now, I didn't think I'd be an avid fisherman, I just wanted to be successful. I wanted to catch some fish, bring some fish home and cook them, work on some new recipes. I had in mind the fact that I was hungry was totally unrelated. Now I mimicked everything my friend did. I mean, why not? He was successful at it. He did this a hundred hundreds of times. He'd be the first one to tell you, though, that he doesn't always have good days. He doesn't always go home with a lot of fish, but rarely does he deviate from the appropriate techniques. But rarely does he deviate from the appropriate techniques. He's diligent about it, about doing the right things, adjusting where necessary, and we did that quite a few times while we were on the beach.

Speaker 1: 13:20

I learned how to place the worm on the hook and catch the fish when they sometimes get out of the bucket and try to scamper away. Those are two of the most or least desirable parts of that time together. If I'm being honest, I didn't enjoy either one of those two things. I don't know why I didn't enjoy that, but setting, baiting, casting, wading, catching, reeling all these skills are required for any level of success in fishing. Patience and practice those are the biggest takeaways that I had.

Speaker 1: 13:48

But knowing the fish you're trying to catch is the intangible that some people may not care about or take the time to learn. Understanding behaviors, understanding mindset, understanding nature. I realized that when that time I spent all those hours out on the beach, I realized that there were so many different fish that we saw that we caught. But they react so differently. They respond so different from one another. They respond to the bait differently. They respond to the movement in the water differently. They respond to all the different stimuli differently. They're not the same. They all fish, without a doubt. They're all in the fish family, but they don't all respond the same. Let's be honest.

Speaker 1: 14:36

I heard people say this before, but a lot of fishing is like luck or chance. I heard the same thing about hunting and other sports. You might catch something, you might catch something, you might catch nothing. Now, whether you buy this or not, if you don't know the behavior of the fish you want to catch, you are least likely to catch anything. Think of the imagery of the ocean. Can you imagine how many different types of fish reside in that vast pool of water?

Speaker 1: 15:06

We caught several fish and threw them back because it wasn't what we were trying to go out there to find. We had a specific fish that we went out there to catch. Now I don't know any fishermen that have the goal to catch anything available. They go out into the water with the intention to catch specific excuse me, specific kind of fish, specific excuse me, specific kind of fish. Fish they can sell, or fish they can eat, or fish so big it would get them some kind of prestigious honor or award or their picture in the paper, but they never want to catch just anything making sense so far. Do you see the parallels? Remember what I said earlier this isn't completely about business. Remember how effective would the two of us have been had we ran out into the waters and furiously grabbed at anything moving, hoping to catch a fish. What do the fish you want to catch like? What kind of waters do the fish swim in? My friend and I had to consider all those things before heading out there.

Speaker 1: 16:08

Happy side story though my first legit effort in fishing I caught 23 bluefish. I threw back a few and some other kind of fish. I think I had a shark but we didn't reel him in. I lost several fish out there, probably more than a dozen, probably closer to 15, maybe 20 fish. Imagine had I caught those. But the good part was I caught fish. It didn't matter if I had a number that I met or I caught everything that I attempted to catch. I caught some fish. There were times my line broke and there was even times I believed that other fish ate the fish that I had on the hook. I can tell that because when I would reel something in, I would have a part of a fish there and not the whole fish where bite marks on it. True story Not bad huh 23 bluefish on my first legit time out fishing. I attribute that to my friend's wisdom, his knowledge, his patience in teaching me, but also in my ability to to learn, my ability to listen, my ability to interact. Why am I sharing that story today? If I had a hunting story, I would have shared that one too, but the premise is still the same.

Speaker 1: 17:27

Networking, in my opinion, is not fishing. There may be some similarities, but networking requires more of us than just our time and the use of some bait. I asked you earlier if you were a door or wall. Now, one allows passage into success for other people and the other is a roadblock through which no one can pass, and connection with said wall is the equivalent to a dead-end street. There's an old saying that I try to live by, and that's to make every situation that I'm a part of or connected to better than it was before I arrived. Think about that in terms of networking. Think about that in terms of your Facebook page and your Twitter page, your Instagram feed. Think about that. Do you make the situation better than it was before you got there? Is it better because you're there. Something to think about.

Speaker 1: 18:28

Networking is not just offering something you think the other person wants and create an advantageous atmosphere where you think you can get them to take or buy or invest in something. That kind of had that icky salesman coming to your door to sell you a vacuum cleaner kind of feel, yeah, that doesn't work. I've seen that up close and it's really weird. They want to come in your house and make a mess and then clean it up with their state-of-the-art vacuum cleaner. Look at it around your house, want to know about your finances, try to scope you out, see how you live, so they can determine the best way to convince you to buy their product. Icky Ew.

Speaker 1: 19:06

Networking in actuality is about connection, who you're connected to, the environment you're attached to. Networking is the allowance of access. You're letting people into your life, into your mindset to a degree. Now are you either closer to your goals and dreams or are you moving further away from them? Have you ever taken the time to make a list of the things you want from a network? Or do you just blindly join things and sign up for things, attach yourself to groups and organizations? What do you want from a network? What do you hope to achieve? I said early on in the episode that it's important about. It's important that we understand who we are as people, because that's going to determine the kind of things that we levitate to, the kind of people that we associate ourselves with.

Speaker 1: 20:05

Somebody said this. I don't know. I don't want to misquote anybody, but somebody said that you can tell about a person by who their friends are, by who they're connected with. There's times I go on to my social media or to other groups that I'm associated with and I look at some of the friendship circles and the comments that their friends make. I'm like this is not just tolerated. This is acceptable in the sight of the person who I I look at as my friend. They can say, oh, that's not me, that's so-and-so, that's just my friend. No, uh-so, that's just my friend, no, uh-uh. What they say is acceptable to you, it's allowable and it's reflective of who you are, whether you want to admit that or not. That's why sometimes it's good to do spring cleaning.

Speaker 1: 21:00

If you look at people's fees and they post things or share things that aren't edifying, they could be demeaning to women, misogynistic, racist, whatever it is. If it's on your feed and you're connected with it. It sends a subtle message to somebody who may not know. Stay with us, we'll be right back. What's up, everybody? It's Mr U. You know I love hearing from all of our viewers and listeners. You guys have some great questions. I love it. On every episode of the podcast they call me Mr U.

Speaker 1: 21:38

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Speaker 1: 22:15

One of the reasons why we avoid in so many areas is because we don't take time to consider and evaluate, we don't self-check and we don't keep records. Here's a random question for you. That's not really a random question what serves generations best over long periods of time, what we remember or what we documented? And the answer to that question really isn't debatable we don't keep records, we don't take notes and we don't take time to ponder, generally speaking. So if somebody told you how important journaling was, for example, many might say they don't have the time or think that it's the best thing for them. Maybe it's better for somebody else to do that. We all need it. We all can't rely on our memories because they eventually fade. We can't trust what we think all the time Our hearts deceive us. Now what does that have to do with networking? We're getting there.

Speaker 1: 23:06

Adrenaline is not just writing down random thoughts. It's the art of documentation. It's pondering thoughts more deeply, noting plans and goals more effectively, weighing the pros and cons and coming to competent conclusions. You can take an hour to get ready for a special event and someone can look at you and go what are you wearing? You can spend hours getting ready and thinking you did well. But perspective can't be gained by yourself. You can't have perspective alone. You need to be another viewpoint.

Speaker 1: 23:38

When you write your own thoughts and goals on paper and keep record, you can see how it may sound to others now that it's out of your head and out in the open it sounds different. Every idea sounds good and foolproof while it's in the mind of the fool, but when it's out in the open, it doesn't sound exactly as fantastic as it did when it was in our cranium. We open our mouths to share it and, yeah, it sounds different out here now, doesn't it? Most every success book I ever read all had a few things in common. But one thing I don't think we think about is the writing down of ideas. Now, this is important to network. I'm going to come back to it. I'm not off the rails here. Trust me.

Speaker 1: 24:23

Many, many of us are really good talkers and we have great memories, so it's a universal approach that really still applies. We should write down ideas and affirmation and goals for several reasons, but a couple of that. It gives us something visually to look at. Having reminders of what we said and what we did is helpful. We can say something that we don't even realize we uttered and also don't realize the impact on other people. This gives us a stronger impression on our minds when we write ideas down and have something visually to look at. Second thing is that it helps us to learn and remember things better. Trusting our memories is unwise. We are more likely to retain this and accept it more readily if we write down these empowering positive thoughts, ideas, affirmations, etc. Etc.

Speaker 1: 25:08

Now let's connect the dots back to networking. Now, most of the reasons why we embrace networking or look for a viable network to shop what we have to offer is because we think we have a great idea or the idea is legitimately really good, but we think we know how best to serve you, the consumer, the average Joe or average Joanna. Before we go fishing for the right fish or go peopling for the right people, we need to understand behavior. I don't know any fishermen personally that takes the time to address personal behaviors before heading out to the lake. Are they patient people? Are they able to be at peace with only catching half of their goal? Are they willing to come home with nothing? Are they willing to get up while everyone else is sleeping to get what they need for their families? Before you can embrace others, you have to embrace some truths about you first. If not, these areas are almost bound to collide with each other, so there are certain kind of people that can be bound to be in your network. Recognizing this is helpful.

Speaker 1: 26:12

I want to just backtrack. I mentioned journaling and I talked about that because we have all these ideas that we share with other people. We have all these ideas that we share with other people before we even really ponder what it is we're trying to say, why we're saying what we're saying. I have this saying that I used to post on social media all the time and it wouldn't get one like, but I believed it so much and it was the truth as far as I was concerned, and I posted it regularly and often because I really wanted to help people think about things a little bit more competently. I will post that most people are more concerned about the headline than they are the content. They read the headline, they react. They get in the comment section and they start tapping away, never read the story, don't know who wrote it, Don't know why they wrote it, don't know the reasons why it was written and who was talking about. All they got was the headline and they react. That's the nature of social media as I see it today.

Speaker 1: 27:13

So I mentioned journaling and being competent about writing ideas down, because when you write things down and I've seen this many times myself I have plans for financial things I wanted to do in life, had my five-year, my 10-year plan when I wrote it down in my book and I journaled it. I realized how dumb some of those ideas really were, absolutely off the mark. But it sounded great in my head. But when I wrote it down it was like ridiculous, that's not what we need to be doing. We need to be going. That's not what we should be doing, and I wish that people will write down their thoughts, not on your Facebook page, on Instagram. I want you to write it down on paper before they say it and read it and listen to it. Did that sound like something you want to represent you? Those are the kind of thoughts I was talking about before, so I hope that makes sense.

Speaker 1: 28:07

Ask yourself these two questions Do you currently have a dream or is it a wish? It's been quoted many times that a goal without a plan is simply a wish. It's also been said many times that we can't do life alone. Still, we ask ourselves that first question. Then we race out to make our own plans and to add to that goal, and we do it out of our own intellect, our own sense of what is good and what is best, not just for us, what we think is good and best for other people. Imagine that the audacity, the unmitigated gall to decide what's good and best for other people. Imagine that the audacity, the unmitigated gall to decide what's good and best for other people that we don't even know, that we don't listen to. If we're talking real today, we don't even hear their hearts, we don't even know what their needs are, but we decide what's good and best for them. Imagine that we don't yet see the value of connection and mentorship and wise counsel. We're still trying to be solo agents, trying to do it on our own.

Speaker 1: 29:10

I used to laugh when, back in the day, when I had my long experience in the music business. I used to laugh, man, because one thing I noticed that was happening then is definitely still happening today, just goes to show that most human behaviors is cyclical. But I was in the. I came up in the era of the groups, the music groups, and that's when I was entering into the music business. I was doing that when groups were hot, these three man, four man, five man, even six man groups. Matter of fact, there was some seven man groups out there that were doing R&B and hip hop. I remember it really well because that was the advent of those groups and everybody had a group. It was the biggest thing. Get some guys together, they could have crap harmon and everybody had a group. It was the biggest thing. Get some guys together, they could have crap harmonies, but let's start a group. I'm not going to write songs, you know, it was like they were a dime, a dozen. Go back and look at the 90s in R&B, hip-hop groups and Google that kind of stuff. Google One Hit Wonders. You'll see so many groups, more than you can name more groups then than there ever was, probably in music history. I would say that arguably because even now there's nowhere near as many groups. Even with the advent of the boy bands it was nowhere near the level of popularity that it was back then in the 90s. Check it out, you'll see it.

Speaker 1: 30:42

But the point I'm trying to make is that there were times when, even with the popularity of of the groups and had to begin to evolve, there were always some issues within the group. Obviously, like in any group, in any family and in the organization, there's problems amongst each other and somebody will always try to go break out and say you know what? I'm bigger than this group, I'm more important than this group, and they'll branch out and they will go solo. They will take all that they learned from the group, all the resources they provided for the group, for the betterment of the group, and go out and try to do it solo. They wanted the confidence, they wanted the accomplishment of doing it on their own, saying I did it. It was more important for them to say I did this, this is my goal, my plan, I made it happen. Then it was to say, together, we did this.

Speaker 1: 31:43

I'm not saying that you shouldn't go solo if you're a recording artist. That's not what I'm saying. I'm just talking about the human behavior behind it, the mindset. I've seen so many guys break away from successful groups, not just because of a difference of opinion, but in actuality, I was close to several of those situations, which I will not be able to name today or maybe anytime, just because of confidentiality and things like that, but I remember it very well. In a lot of those situations where that one member of the group would break away, it wasn't just because of an argument or a disagreement on direction. It was because of that person and what was on the inside of them, what they wanted to have, that craving that they wanted to satisfy, that they couldn't satisfy within the group. That drew them away from the group and on their own, with limited results or sometimes very poor results. Their going solo was a flop in a lot of cases. They overestimated, overvalued their importance to the group. Ooh, that's deep right there. Did you even hear that they overestimated their value to the group? They overestimated their value period and they put themselves above everybody else. Do we do that in networking? Let's move on.

Speaker 1: 33:09

Next question what kind of person gets you closer to your goals or moves you further away from them? Which person are you? There's three points that I want to kind of flesh out with that before we end the episode today. Now, one kind of person tries to get you to stop or wants to ride with you on your way to success. Now, people want what you have generally, but they don't want to do the work that you do. They may encourage you to yield certain stances you have in life or certain approaches to success, to personal growth. They'll tell you to go for it, but don't forget about your friends on the way up. They want to ride with you or get you to kind of stop and concede. Whatever it is you're trying to accomplish. They're the big red stop sign. That's the kind of people that are in that kind of network. They're big red stop signs. When you're driving on the road, you see a big red stop sign. What do you do? You come to a stop. At least you should.

Speaker 1: 34:16

The second kind of person are the person that try to get you to slow down, maybe out of guilt or out of envy. People who think you're going too hard, you're doing too much, you should lower your standards. Take a break, cool out, relax from the grind, chill, sleep in. These folks want you to have more fun. They want you to be in a state of compromise. These are the compromisers. They may secretly envy your activity. They may envy your growth. It may be because you are friends with them that your activity, your grind, your level of engagement shines a negative light on their lack of activity. So slowing you down keeps them from being lonely and keeps them from looking bad. You might find these kind in that crab bucket we talked about for several weeks.

Speaker 1: 35:13

These are the slow down people Big yellow sign that says slow down. When you drive down the road, you see the slow down sign. You do what? Slow down. And then the other kind of person are the ones who try to get you to go. They want you to keep learning, keep growing, keep thinking, keep moving. Don't give up, don't stop, don't quit. These are members of the no-quit nation, oh yeah, baby, people who love you too much to leave you in your current state. They will drag you, kicking and screaming to progress. They will not allow you to wallow in self-pity. They'll give you a kick in the pants. They'll push you to do greater. Hopefully they know what that looks like, but they'll push you. They're the big green light that says go.

Speaker 1: 36:10

Now, which one are you? We're talking about? Networking is one common denominator in all of this. I don't care if you're on Facebook, twitter, instagram, tiktok, whatever it is. How have you integrated with other people? How have you integrated with other people? How have you engaged with other people? There's one common denominator. And all the negativity, all of the online arguments, the back and forth, all of the vitriol, there's one common denominator in all of those situations you.

Speaker 1: 36:42

So I ask you today something to ponder and think about which one of these persons are you? Are you the one that wants everyone to stop and yield because you're not willing to do the work and just don't have a drive, but you want your friends to do what you're doing. Are you the one that wants everyone to slow down because it makes you look bad that they're doing something? And you're pretty much stuck where you are. You've lost your belief. You decided to quit and give up on everything as opposed to continuing to go forward, as opposed to reaching out for mentoring, for wise counsel, changing your network and the people that you hang around who may negatively influence you because of the environment that you all are in together.

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Or are you the kind of person that says go, always willing to learn, always willing to take somebody with you on the road to success, always willing to grow a positive, encouraging, inspiring network? See, everybody's going to raise their hand and say, oh, I'm the green one, I'm the go, are you? It's time to evaluate that, because I don't care where you network, I don't care who you connect with, I don't care what kind of product and service you have to offer, I don't care what kind of benefit you think is good for somebody else If you don't know what kind of person you are. Whatever network you begin to create and build, that's what you're going to levitate to people that are just like you. We have to decide who we want to be. All those tips that we talked about writing down notes, documenting things, evaluating, looking at what we are thinking on paper, having the right mindset when it comes to human behaviors, taking the time to understand who we are as humans, how to talk to other people, how to relate to other people, how to connect with other people rather than talk at and talk down to. We have to decide the answer to that question that we talked about a little earlier Are we a door or are we a wall?

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There's no in between the only good ideas and opportunities to share great benefits. Stop with you. Or does it go further, because you care about ideas and opportunities to share great benefits? Stop with you. Or does it go further because you care about the opportunity for success and you care about giving access to other people? I hope this helped you out.

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